A guide to modern relationships

 'Relationships'

What does the word exactly define? An understanding between individuals? Maybe.

But today, the world isn't defining it in the right sense. Some persons are defining a relationship as something physical between two individuals. And others are defining it as coordination between individuals. Why? Because they only know it in the wrong terms.
A relationship should be understood as a balance of thoughts between two individuals which leads to a common understanding. They should come in favor of the terms. They should be able to value each other's minds.

The persons in a relationship should be able to understand the reasons behind expectations and should be able to withstand their relationship even if disturbances arise. They should be able to understand each other in any circumstances. They should be able to generate happiness. They should be proud of themselves when they look back in the future.

Remove a persception about relationships that it only defines love. Relation can be between any one. If you love feeding a dog on your street and it love watching you wagging its tail, it can be a pure friendship between you too. If a grandma in your neighbourhood loves telling you hello, it can be a lovely relationship between you two.

So, instead of considering a relationship as something, keep in mind that it can be anything that is mutually good.

So, stop reading this now and start focusing on how to develop your relationships.

By
Niteesha Duvvuri
IG: @thoughts.to.cherish

(Myself Niteesha. I am a post graduation student of commerce who is desiring to become a novelist. I started my writing journey in 2018 and travelling in it since then. You can find my writings in yourquote app and on instagram)


Living a Life in the Way of The Archer - A Critical Study of Paulo Coelho's "The Archer"

Our life depends on the way we live. If we take our problem as tiny as an atom it will be easy for us to solve. If we take it as vast as the ocean then it will never be resolved. The writers help us to handle some critical and complex problems through their writings. Here we have our famous critical thinking and life writing Brazilian author Paulo Coelho who never fails to present the reality of life through his novels such as "The Alchemist", "Life" and so on.  "The Archer", a short story published in 2020, is one on the list. The way the Archer teaches to Tetsuya the way of the bow and way of life creates positive vibes among the readers on how to focus on the target (the destination) with courage and dedication. The story opens with a conversation with a stranger(Archer) to show his skill of archery which he learned for years and to challenge him. The first lesson Tetsuya learned from him was to do the thing rather than simply talk. Here is the proof when the archer pushed backwards the arrow and it disappeared from view. The boy returned with the arrow and it pierced a cherry that he found on the ground, forty meters away. Then Tetsuya bowed to the archer. Paulo recorded a message through the words of Tetsuya "we should never judge people without first learning to hear and to respect them." Parents always blame a teacher for the students who didn't study well and get good marks on the exams. 

Here Paulo explains whom we have to blame and what the teacher's job is.  He states that "Teaching isn't hard. I could do that in less than an hour........ The difficult thing is to practice it every day until you achieve the necessary precision."(p. 9) The teacher only teaches the lessons. The students have to study and practice to achieve their aims. The archer gives a valuable message to Tetsuya ".... trust your intuition and pay no attention to what anyone else may say. People always judge by taking as a model their own limitations, and other people's opinions are often full of prejudice and fear." (p. 12)

We should know what kinds of people we should have in our life. For example, people who encourage us and lift us from our sorrows are preferred to be in our life. He advises Tetsuya on finding and joining with the people who are good for his mental health to focus on his target by stating that "join with all those who experiment, take risks, fall, get hurt and then take more risks. Stay away from those who affirm truths, who criticize those who do not think like them, and who prefer certainties to doubts."(p. 12) He continues with the list of joining with the people who are flexible as a bow, who sings, tells stories, takes pleasure in life, and do their work with enthusiasm. He gives a new meaning to the bow "The bow is life: the source of all energy. The arrow will leave one day. The target is a long way off. But the bow will stay with you and you must know how to look after it."(p.15) Here the author uses the bow as a symbol of life where it is flexible and it has its limits. If we stretch it too much it will break and we should try to be in harmony with what we have and never ask for more than it can give. The arrow is another symbol that represents our intentions where it unites the strength of the bow with the center of the target and it should be clear, straight, and balanced. While teaching how to shoot an arrow he gives an incredible life message "If you never take a risk, you will never know what changes you need to make'"(p.16) Everyone has their target as the archer has in every shoot. When we focus on our targets we fail to see what is the circumstance around us, our target may be reached or may not be. If we want our target to be reached perfectly we should note down the factors which affect our target such as the untimely death of our beloved, not having enough money to pay for our livelihood, and so on. It is the same in the case of an archer while shooting his arrow he should look around and analyze the factors like wind, weight, and distance. While aiming for the target posture is important, one should have serenity and elegance to learn how to reach the target. According to Paulo serenity comes from the heart and elegance is a way in which a man can do honor to his life and his work. He further states that "....... the simpler and more sober the posture, the more beautiful'"(p.19) We should stay calm and simple in whatever positions we possess which will help us to reach greater heights. The final message of the author is "The way of the bow is the way of joy and enthusiasm, of perfection and error, of technique and instinct."(p.29) Our life is also like the way of an archer, filled with joy and enthusiasm, perfection and error, logic and instincts. Live life in the way of a bow and in the way of an archer with clear, conscious, and stable targets.

By
Gayathri Ravi
IG: @gayathry76

(A Nature Lover, Poet, Writer, Learner and an Enthusiastic Teacher. Residing in Tamil Nadu, India. Educated in Chennai, Tamil Nadu. Aspiring Teacher and learner. Believing that Being Empathetic and Positive means one is alive. The only way to learn is to live. Published in 16 anthologies, two magazines and two journals. Author of "Nature's Inhabitants" - A Poetry Collection)

The Comforters

Winter has set in and for some it is not very comforting where temperatures drop to minus degrees and for others it is quiet enjoyable. I personally love this weather, maybe because of the place I live in, where winter means pleasant enjoyable weather. Another reason for loving this weather is that it compels us to look for anything that can keep us warm and cosy. The things that are stored in to come out once a year. The things that help us enjoy our daily activities even in the coolest or coldest of times. Winters are fun if you could simply enjoy yourself whether in activities, celebrations and food of course. We feel great to dress up and we feel comfortable when we have something warm around. Not to miss the bonfires  without which winter cannot be fun. 

Comforts are easily available  only if we look for them. We do take them out once a year, we do use our room heaters, blankets, woollens, the fireplace is also lit up and what better way to enjoy the evening with a cup of hot soup, sitting beside the fireplace with soothing music in the background. There is so much around to make us comfortable in every weather. The changes made in closet every year depending in the requirement, is made. At times  there are other things that provide more comfort than what we actually  do use and we also look around for them. You are lucky if you do happen to find one, if not  you need to soothe yourself alone. Remember the cuddle with your dear one which makes you forget all that is around. The holding of hands when you  need not say ,but need someone beside. Remember the arm around your shoulder , holding on to you to make you understand that it will never let you fall. The moment when someone lend you a ear and wiped the tear that came rolling down on your cheek. The little gesture silently made to let you know you are doing great or letting you know everything  will be fine. The hug that made you feel secure and the smile that made  you smile back knowing you were not alone. If you do have all of these or experienced them whenever you felt alone or cold or hesitant or scared, then my friend you don't need the seasons to change to feel comfortable. The concern and care if with you, can make you feel as cosy and as warm throughout the year. These are not looked for nor asked for as they came in unexpectedly  when you need it most. You sit feeling cold when out in the open or you are tired and asleep. Then suddenly you are lent a shawl around or covered with a blanket , with a kiss on the forehead as you sleep. You sit alone with something that you need to share and then suddenly a visit or a call helps you come out with it and you forget how long you have been there. The hands that hold you when you are just about to trip and fall, the surprise gift or cake to make you feel special as you sit alone to celebrate, are these mot comforts that we should feel lucky if we do have. Nothing is more valuable and meaningful if you have these around.

I change my closet every season,I discard what is worn out or not needed but I never need to change these comforters as I know wherever I am and whatever the season they will always be there for me making every season, every moment as enjoyable as I enjoy winter.

By
Mansi Chaturvedi
IG: mansi.chaturvedi.1

(A published author of the book Shades Of Solitude, a blogger with her Blog Pennedconnections.wordpress.com where she tries to connect to a wider audience and a homemaker based in Kolkata who has used her moments to utilise her passion for writing by being an active participant  in various writing platforms like StoryMirror. She has had her work published as Co author by Exceller  And Oxford Publication,  Shubharambh  Publication and her book published by Writersgram Publication)