In the cycle of birth and death, even a woman takes birth in the form of an innocent, tender child , Then she is given the title of Kanya Ratna But; Does the precious unmarried child really get the same dignity as a male child in our society? Instead, a burden is re-named and targeted, with many discriminations and injustices being inflicted on the target. Even as a child, she is not allowed to play with the neighboring children voluntarily, is not allowed to study in a good school, is not brought good clothes or toys for her .The story of a woman's struggling life begins from that childhood .
She could not understand the injustice done to the child till the age of twelve. She takes them as loving reprimands against her childishness and pettiness. But as she gets older she can understand a lot Even though she is innocent in many cases, how she is being blamed, how she is being forced to grow up in the thoughts of others by suppressing her basic thoughts, she can understand. Her freedom to sit, laugh, dress and speak is restricted Suppressing her grief, she hides her face in her cloak and becomes suffocated. Still she struggles to grow up, wishing for a happy life .
As she gets older, many changes come against her will to study, create her own identity and stand on her own two feet. Neighbors, close ones, relatives also come forward to obstruct her goal. She couldn't resist trying her best. Because she is taught from childhood not to protest. And if she protests, she will be left alone in this woman's flesh-loving society. She could not dare to fight alone In many cases, she backs down to protect its own dignity and self-respect.
A girl has to struggle no less to get a job. Relatives, neighbors, and closeones do not hesitate to make bitter and wise comments about her job. However, she remains steadfast in her goal. And everyone thinks at the moment, if they get a job, all their problems will be solved! Surprisingly, even after the job, her struggle does not decrease!
Later, for her marriage, the people of the house are so unstable that it seems as if she is not a girl, but a big burden! No one asks her what she wants but everyone leaves with their own opinion. Her people take advantage of her simplicity and create such a situation that she ends up marrying a stranger to a stranger.
Even after marriage her struggle does not decrease When a newly married woman has to settle into a new family with its principles, rules, traditions, customs, differences are bound to arise. Some women try to follow all the standards of their husband's house without saying a word, ignoring their own ideas, policies, rules and reforms. But; A few brave ones protest, take their own views forward And then a new story of quarrels, fights and oppression is created .They force her to live according to their wishes Even in the financial management of the family, all the decisions of the husband are imposed on her, be it saving or spending.
Truth be told, almost every woman has past loves, love relationships, which could not succeed due to family or societal restrictions. After marrying another man, a woman may not want to, but sometimes that relationship invades her life but it does not mean that a married woman is not a virgin, so even after marriage, in other words, the men of the house have special control over the woman .
No Indian parents take help from their married daughters But; Many independent, working women want to financially support their elderly parents in their distress For this our law also supports it. But; A woman has to face a lot of opposition from her husband and her family to do this.
In time a woman becomes a mother ,She hopes that the child born from her womb will grow up and understand her broken heart, He will be supported in her old age But; Sometimes even her own son does not hesitate to harass the old mother when he falls in love with her wife. The daughter -in-law is a daughter of a foreigner, it is futile to expect more from her . Finally the woman dies, unable to bear the unbearable pain of sickness, grief and pain.
All in all, a woman struggles from birth to death to survive, to realize her dreams and ambitions. There are many other things that are not covered here But; Saints and Mahatmas have condemned women as the door to hell, but no one understands that men are responsible for changing the direction of this society along with Saints and Mahatmas. So, I request you all for the free life of women, you should accept women may be not in the form of a goddess but in the form of a human being and give them all the rights and equality as men. See this society will smile again, just like heaven!!
By
Jyotirmayee Panda
(I'm Jyotirmayee Panda , I live in Cuttack (Odisha) . I have just completed my MCA . As I have intrested in writing, I have written on sites like Storymirror, Pratilipi and won many certificates , awards , prize money through these sites. And recently I co-authored FIVE books, which are sold on Amazon and various other platforms. "SOPHROSYNE" book is my first book as a Co- Writer. Also received Asia's Top 100 Influencial Women Awards For "Young Writer And Motivational Speaker 2023" , highest civilian award of National Book Of Records "Bharat Vibhushan" ,50 UNDER'50- Global Inspiring Women's Award- 2023 For "Emerging Writer" , NayeRahi Winner Of Valentine's Week - 2023 And Cosmic Inception Publication "Literacy Award For The Year 2023")