How relationships can negatively affect the day-to-day functioning of an individual

Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, are an integral part of our lives. They bring us joy, happiness, and a sense of belonging. However, relationships can also have negative effects on our day-to-day functioning, leading to stress, anxiety, and depression. In this article, we will explore how relationships can impact an individual's daily life and how these effects can be mitigated.

One of the ways relationships can negatively affect our daily functioning is through emotional turmoil. Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship, and it can take a toll on our mental health. When we are constantly arguing with our partner, it can create feelings of anger, frustration, and sadness. These feelings can linger and affect our ability to focus, complete tasks, and maintain healthy relationships with others. In severe cases, conflicts in relationships can also lead to depression and anxiety.

Another way that relationships can negatively affect daily functioning is through relationship transitions. Relationships often go through changes, whether it's a break-up, a change in living arrangements, or a shift in the dynamic between partners. These transitions can be stressful and cause feelings of insecurity and uncertainty. They can also lead to feelings of loss, particularly in the case of a break-up. This emotional upheaval can affect our ability to sleep, eat, and concentrate, leading to a decrease in overall daily functioning.

A third way that relationships can impact daily functioning is through stress. Relationships can be stressful, especially when there is a lot of responsibility and pressure on them. This can result from financial stress, career stress, or simply feeling the need to constantly be there for our partner. This stress can lead to anxiety, irritability, and decreased motivation. It can also affect our physical health, leading to headaches, fatigue, and digestive issues.

It is important to recognize that these negative effects of relationships can be mitigated. One of the best ways to deal with stress and conflict in relationships is through open and honest communication. When we are able to express our feelings and needs to our partner, it can lead to a more harmonious relationship and reduce stress. It is also important to prioritize self-care and to take breaks from the relationship when necessary. This can help us recharge and maintain our mental and physical health.

Another way to reduce the negative effects of relationships is through seeking help from a professional. A therapist can help us identify and manage stress, resolve conflicts, and improve our communication skills. They can also help us understand the root cause of our emotional turmoil and work towards resolving it.

In conclusion, relationships can have a profound impact on our daily functioning. Whether it is through emotional turmoil, relationship transitions, or stress, these negative effects can lead to decreased motivation, increased anxiety, and decreased physical health. However, by taking steps to prioritize self-care, engage in open communication, and seeking help from a professional, we can mitigate these negative effects and improve our overall well-being.

By

Ayindrila Mukherjee

IG: @_.ayi.kun._

(I am Ayindrila Mukherjee from West Bengal. I like writing and I want the world to hear my thoughts. I also like writing songs and poems beside articles and I'm grateful that Magazine Unicorn is providing a platform to everyone to express themselves freely)

EQUALITY MATTERS

We are living in this world because there are other peoples. Life takes place in relation to others, whether it’s someone from India or from other country, that does not really matter, it is the same human being. Your idea of separate human is just an idea; otherwise all are inter-related and inter-connected. People would love to be around you and people will blessed you. Blessing never comes from the Gods; infact it only comes from living beings. Hence, you must help people if you want a blessed life. 

We treat people differently every day.  When you are looking for a partner you will probably have preference for a man and women. Or for someone with a certain color of hair or skin. With a cheerful smile and beautiful teeth. Or with the same taste in music. Is that discrimination too? If you are throwing a party, you will usually invite the people you like and know well. Others are excluded and not invited. In daily life we distinguish between people all the time based on age, gender, background, you name it. We do not always treat everyone equally because everyone is not same. So, it is normal to distinguish between people and treat them unequally. In most cases, no one will care. But in some situation, it is okay and even forbidden.

Differences are important and it should be respected. It’s good for people to be different. Some people think it is wired for people to be different than them. They will tease them and make fun of the person just for something that they like or enjoy to do that they don’t like themselves. A lot of people think it’s good to just be like everyone else and just to do the same thing that everyone else does. But in reality the world is so much better with variety and something unique with each person and without any of that this world be so dull. No matter how much you try to judge others or how much you try to escape it, it happens anyways. Just keep asking yourself this question: Who are you to judge someone else? To make comments about how that person live his/her life? To put down if you don’t agree with something they have said or done? It’s not like we all are meant for same path. We aren’t all supposed to end up in the same place, in the same situations or end up with the same results in life. So why is that people think they have right to tell others that they are wrong? Who to say that the choices they are making won’t lead them to where they are meant to be. I think that’s what I found most frustrating about people who are constantly judging others. They seem to think that everyone is meant for same thing, mean for same purpose, but, no, that’s wrong. We all have our own path, our own journeys and our purpose in life. Stop judging people all the time and just let them live their lives how they wish. Just because their path doesn’t match yours, doesn’t mean they are wrong. They are their own person. They all are meant to be different from them. There are story behind every person. There are reason why they are the way they are. Think about before you judge someone.

We all are distinguished and united by similarities according to our gender, culture, language, age, race, sexual identity and in many cases income level. There are these diversity qualities that challenge our intellect and emotions as we learn to work and live together in harmony. Diversity is not about gender, skin color, ethnic background, religion, speaking different languages or belonging to different culture; it’s also thinking and expressing differently. One thing that plays a very important role is “Language”, what we as people use to communicate with. A language can bring one nation together and separate it at the same time. In today’s society, unfortunately if you don’t speak the language that majority of people speak you are often put down and even ignored. And in the same society being “different” is not easy. What I mean ”different” is having different background, speaking a “broken English”, being part of different culture. Even most of us know that thus nation is formed on diversity; people still haven’t learned to tolerate one another’s differences and somehow learn from them. However, everyday that goes by more people realizing even more that these differences makes us who we are. They shape the way we think and express yourself and opinion to others.

Equal does not mean that we are all same. We all are different in many ways. We all are created by same God, but we do have some variations. We also have some common qualities that make us all humans. 

Equality is vital in any society or the world at large. When there’s inequality. It would be difficult for a nation to progress. It ensures that there’s no discrimination against anyone. Everyone is treated to be equal and treated the same way. And as a result, people in the society will have the freedom to associate with others, share their knowledge and get involved in activities that can have a positive impact on society. Equality breeds confidence and makes people more sociable. People should not have lesser life chances owning their family background, race, religious, beliefs and disability or gender. Every individual must be treated with equal respect and allowed to do whatever they want. They should have the free will to speak and associate with anyone. The ideology behind this equality is that everyone is born equal and free. It means we are all blessed with similar talents and gifts.  And as such, no individual is more superior to the others. We are all the same.

All these criteria’s would help people learn how to deal with diversity and become more knowledgeable about it. There’s many people in this world of ours and they are all different, they are part of different religion, gender, background, and with different sex identity and what brings all together is the understanding that we are all unique and by giving each other a chance to express our ideas and opinions we grow individuals and learn to appreciate others for who they are.

By

Dr. Bhavana Jain 

IG: @dr.bhavana8

(This Is Dr. Bhavana Jain, a resident of Sagar, Madhya Pradesh, India. She is a Dentist, Writer and a Social Worker. Apart from bringing a smile to the patient’s face, while curing the patient’s toothache, she also likes to write and motivate people. She likes to travel, cook, write and read books. She is passionate about writing articles and poems)

The art of letting go...

If I ever scroll my Facebook and Instagram page, I do not know how many books or articles are named on this subject ‘the art of letting go….’. I will not have believed in the effectiveness of the title until and unless I let go of everything that was not me at all.

To begin the topic, I want to share a story from an anonymous girl, lets name her Mary. She fell in love at first sight with a man named Sam. Sam is incredibly blessed with the habit of reading novels in his native language, that is, Bengali. Mary was head over heels in love with him but the universe kept sending her signals for why Sam should not be a part of Mary’s life. the latter’s friends, relatives and even the astrologers left no stone unturned to explain why this match is not made in heaven. If someone tells what you were trying to say before you, you are bound to fall in love. Mary and Sam spent nights after nights chatting either though messages or though phone call till 4 AM in the morning. The next day when the sun shines brightly, the messages send by Mary, went unanswered till 11pm at night. Their relationship cannot be known to the world because his parents will force for their marriage. Mary is a good girl, a rare gem that is difficult to find and even difficult to know of its existence. the only unfortunate thing that took place throughout the relationship is Sam and Mary never spend quality time with one another. That is extremely sad especially for Mary who loves coffee shops and shopping malls. On the other hand, Sam loves the tea from the roadside stall and 10 to 15 minutes of his complete devotion to Mary only in areas near his workplace or near his house. 

The pair is perfect for one another. Sam and Mary love books, dogs, and cats. Both want to adopt a baby girl instead of having their own. however, as the time went by, all the sugarcoating went down the drain. The relationship was full of conflicts. Mary loves coffee, why do not you try earl grey. Mary won award for her debut book; your poems are of such low-quality. Mary loves Buddhism, you know nothing about the world except your spirituality. you are immature to live with the world outside the confines of your home. Mary wants to do a job, why do not you do your masters ‘degree and PhD degree. In this relationship, at every point of time the red flag was visible but it was always ignored by Mary. Mary lived in her own world where Sam is her savior, her source of happiness but the day, she left him, it was worth. Unknown source of peace started to reside within her. Mary believed it will be difficult to live without Sam, fortunately, a burden was lifted off her shoulders. Mary was dancing, singing, and laughing in joy. She did not miss Sam at all. Sam messaged him which went unanswered till date.

Through this story, I want to conclude that the red flags exist since the beginning of our relationships but they go unnoticed because of our feel-good based decisions. Love is love. When the right one comes, our intuition are going to let us know. Until then, do not waste your time with people who are not worth your mental health and peace.

By

Sankalita Roy

IG: @sankalitar

(My name is Sankalita Roy. I am an English language trainer, a writer and an animal lover. I teach students through online platforms like zoom and goggle meet for spoken English. I have been published in several anthologies and magazines. My own debut poetry book ' Some Unbothered Truths' has lead me to win the award for the title 'Poet of the Year' by Ukiyoto Publishing. I love to work for the welfare of stray dogs and cats and take care of my adorable pets)